I don’t know about you, but even though it’s only February it feels like we’re well into 2015. Although 2014 was a good year for me, it was way too busy and I didn’t appreciate a lot of the good times because I went straight from one thing to another with little or no time for reflection. I even worked most days over the Christmas period.
So I don’t want to see 2015 rush past. I don’t want to get to December 31 and wonder where the time went. I want more quality time. I’ve made no other resolution except to be good to myself this year. Essentially, that means not feeling I need to say yes to everything that comes my way, even though I love tackling new things and have a spirit of adventure that calls me to ‘have a go’ at the drop of a hat. Recently I’ve been my own worst enemy where filling my time is concerned. Last year I ended up involved in acting or directing three plays that all climaxed in October and November. Now, I do love theatre and being involved in local productions, but I stupidly over-committed myself for a solid three months and life wasn’t as much fun as it could have been as a result.
I don’t think I’m alone in the endless drive to do more, achieve more and be ‘busy’. In fact, most of the women I know are in the same trap. But we’ve set our own traps. It really doesn’t matter if you can’t bake muffins for the school fete, do a full-time job and run a home and ferry the kids to and from play dates and after school activities. Life should not be a tense competition to be the best at everything. I mean, what good is that?
So, being good to myself this year boils down to being more circumspect with commitments outside of work and ensuring that I have sufficient time to walk, socialise, cook, reflect, travel and write: activities that I love and which feed and refresh my soul. I’m making an effort to ensure that I have at least one day a week when I don’t have to be anywhere or do anything (that’s today, by the way). I want to open up that time to generate creativity and ideas. Having one clear day to spend as I please each week is the biggest luxury of all.
I can listen to music without feeling that I should be doing housework at the same time; I can sleep late or take a nap in the afternoon; read to my heart’s content or follow up a workout with time spent relaxing in the spa. It’s bliss and I’m on a bit of a Twitter crusade to spread the joy with some well-chosen links, like this one.
The bad news, the stress of modern life, the personal challenges, all these things can be handled better when we have time to recharge our emotional and physical batteries.
What about you? Do you carve out time – a day, afternoon or at least a couple of hours – to daydream, reflect, sleep or just watch the world go by?